Top 5 Secrets of Attaining The State of Forgiveness

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5 Steps to Forgiveness

They say that you shouldn’t give your trust out for free—that you should only trust someone after they’ve earned it. I’ve never really followed this rule. I take a quite opposite route actually and simply trust those who haven’t showed me that I can’t or that I shouldn’t. Maybe I’m crazy for this. But the reality of the matter is people will double-cross you and go back on their word no matter what. That’s what we get for being human, we make mistakes and feel the repercussions of others as well. But what’s perhaps more important than whether or not someone lies to you or betrays your trust is how they treat you after the matter. Do they show remorse? Are they sincerely sorry? Sometimes the answer is yes, and sometimes the whole experience proves who you should show your own loyalty too. Regardless, you have to first take the steps to forgive them—even if you’re not doing it for them but yourself. Because holding a grudge can weigh you down and it’s just not worth the suffering. So here are five steps to take to forgive someone:

1) Reflect on the situation.

The first step to forgiving someone is reflecting on the situation: figure out exactly what happened, why or even if you’re upset, where the betrayal stemmed from, if the whole thing was avoidable, and so on. This will help you understand exactly how everything went down so you can then accept that it happened. You should also accept your initial reaction and feelings related to the event, as you can’t help them.

2) Put yourself in the other person’s shoes.

Once you’ve taken the opportunity to reflect on the situation and your feelings, try putting yourself in the other person’s shoes. Could you have found yourself in the same predicament? Or think back to a time when you were in a similar predicament—we’ve all been the offender at some point in our lives. Doing this will help you remember that all human beings are flawed. We all make mistakes, we act selfishly, and we hurt others in the process. In addition, maybe they found themselves between a rock and a hard place, as the saying goes: whichever course of action they took, they would hurt you or someone else. So really take the time to consider not only your own feelings, but all factors.